Comparison · Updated 2026
Not against a vague "other apps" category — against the actual platforms built for this. We only have an affiliate arrangement with one of these four, and we say which, upfront.
The four platforms
| Criteria | MyTransgenderDate | Transdr | TSDates | Butterfly.Dating |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| Built specifically for | Trans women & the men who want to date them | Trans dating generally | Trans dating generally | Trans dating, positions itself as more casual/sex-positive |
| Cost for men | Paid subscription | Freemium — free tier plus paid upgrades | Freemium — free tier plus paid upgrades | Freemium — free tier plus paid upgrades |
| Cost for trans women | Free | Free / freemium | Free / freemium | Free / freemium |
| Profile verification | Manual review before a profile goes live | Not confirmed as manual | Not confirmed as manual | Automated moderation, flags suspicious messages |
| Best fit for | Serious, relationship-minded dating | General trans dating, mixed intent | General trans dating, mixed intent | More casual, sex-positive dating |
Pricing, verification processes, and features change over time and vary by region — treat this as a starting point and confirm current details on each platform directly before deciding.
Reading the table
Transdr, TSDates, and Butterfly.Dating let men use a free tier before paying for extras — the more familiar dating-app model. MyTransgenderDate instead requires a subscription for men from the start, in exchange for manual profile review on every account. Neither model is objectively "better" — it's a trade-off between lower upfront cost and a higher bar against fake accounts.
Butterfly.Dating leans more casual and sex-positive by its own positioning. Transdr and TSDates read as general-purpose trans dating without a strong stated focus either way. MyTransgenderDate markets itself specifically toward relationship-minded users. If you know which of those you want, that alone should narrow your choice more than any feature list.
For men specifically looking for a serious relationship with a trans woman, and who'd rather pay a subscription than deal with a free platform's usual noise, MyTransgenderDate is the one we point people to first — see the full review for the details. If you want a more casual, lower-commitment starting point, Transdr or TSDates are worth a look; if you're after something explicitly casual, Butterfly.Dating fits that better.